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were role models of bravery and resilience. Your local librarian can suggest other books
and videos featuring stories of strength, courage, and hopefulness.
Laugh often. Remember that the most fun-filled family activities don t need to cost
much money. Reminisce together about happy times and funny remember when
stories. Let your child take pictures of the family and organize a family bulletin board,
Web page, or photo album.
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Strong families have the knack for
optimism, for taking long views and a
big picture perspective.
Mary Pipher, The Shelter of Each Other:
Rebuilding Our Families
Do what you can to reduce stress and pressure at home for your child.
Children, like adults, lead increasingly pressured lives today. You can help your child stay
strong and resilient by
" providing structure and predictability at home
" limiting video games and how much TV your child watches and especially limiting
games and programs with violent and troubling images (if your older child has a classroom
assignment to watch news stories, try to watch with her)
" eating balanced meals
" making sure you and your child get enough sleep
" helping your child adopt healthy habits from early on
Don t dwell on mistakes. Avoid being too critical. Allow your child to make
mistakes and to learn from those mistakes.
Encourage your child to try different things. Offer your child opportunities
to try different music, sports, and arts activities. Spend time as a family at events of
different cultures.
Be caring and supportive. Children who grow up to be resilient come from
families where they received a lot of guidance, supervision, and support from their parents
and other adults. You are your child s strongest advocate at school, at home, and in
the world. Offer reassurance so that your child learns not to cave in to defeat. Let him
know that if things don t work out the first time there will be a next time. Show
your child that you believe in him. Remember to say, I believe in you. I know you
can do it. You re terrific. I love you.
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Bouncing Back Plan
Now you re ready to put some of what you ve read in this booklet to use. Fill out this
worksheet and begin working on your bouncing back plan today.
List two or three challenges you are facing in your life and write a sentence or two about
each challenge. (For example, Caregiving is my big challenge. It s really hard caring
for mom, especially when things are really busy at work. ) Look back to the Challenges
checklist on page 24 for examples of challenges you may be facing.
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List possible solutions to the challenges you described above. (For example,
I could talk with Jeff and Kelly about mom s care and see if they could pitch in more. )
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Look back to the How resilient are you? questionnaire. Now list two or three areas you
could work on to be more resilient and steps you could take to do that. (For example,
I could work on taking better care of myself. Steps: start walking three times a week with
a friend. Bring a healthy lunch to work twice a week. )
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Get going on your bouncing back plan! Describe one step you can commit to taking
within the next 48 hours to work on being more resilient.
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We d like to hear any suggestions or ideas you have on this
topic. Please write to us at publications@ceridian.com.
Be sure to include the title of the booklet in your message.
Thank you.
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